Wednesday, 21 March 2018

6 Helpful Ways To Overcome Heartbreak

1. You went through a terrible breakup that has left you bleary eyed, shaken, and afraid you lost your soul mate.

2. You have been cheated on or cheated on someone and you’re feeling upset and confused.

3. You broke up a while ago but have just seen (thank you Facebook) that your ex is getting married, had a baby, or is posting a million pictures with his new person and you can’t help but think “maybe I shouldn’t have let them go” or “I’ll never find love like that again” or “I’m not as good as her.”

4. You’re in a relationship now that just isn’t working and you don’t know what to do. You love this person but there are a ton of red flags and you’re lonely and lost.

5. You thought you’ve completely moved on but you had a dream about an ex and wonder why you still have feelings for them.

I am able to write this post only because I’ve gone through these situations myself.

Here is why having your heart broken is a good thing: because most of our fragile hearts have holes in them. There are wounds, some of which have healed entirely, some that have scabbed over, and some of which are still open. But because it has been shattered into a million little pieces, the light can shine through.

You are not broken. You have been cracked wide open. Wide enough to feel deep and hard. And I know that it hurts, but from that hurt you can begin to create a profound connection with yourself and others that wasn’t possible before.

Having your heart broken means being human. It means that you have a good, loving, and caring heart.

Coaching and helping others through their pain over the years has taught me some profound lessons. The biggest being that any feelings, thought, or emotion you’re going through - someone else has gone through the same. This is what connects us all. I offer more guidance on self-compassion and love in my free guide here.

Here are 6 Ways to Overcome Heartbreak:

1. Feel the feelings and don’t force yourself to “just get over it.”

Getting over a broken heart can take a lot of energy, work, and time. Don’t try to force yourself or listen to anyone who says “just get over it”. You might think you’re over it, then have a dream about this person and get flushed with feeling all over again. It can take a long time, and that’s okay, so be very gentle with yourself. It helps to talk to someone about it like a trusted friend or coach for guidance moving through the feelings.

Most people are very afraid of negative feelings and will do anything to avoid them. Remember that feelings can’t hurt you. They are simply an energy that needs to move through you and move on.

Let yourself cry. Remember that you’re not crying for the other person, you’re crying for yourself. To release the grief of the future that you saw with this person. It only existed in your mind, in the potential you could see, but it was there nonetheless.

2. Get the energy out.

This is especially needed if you’re feeling a lot of anger. Anger, sadness, anxiety, grief, depression, are all energies that want to be released from your body.

One of the best ways to get the energy out is to get moving. Go for a run while blasting your favorite music through your headphones. Punch a punching bag (seriously, kickboxing class helped me get through A LOT of emotions). Get your sweat on in some way, and do it consistently.

3. Forgive.

Forgiveness is not about the other person or letting them off the hook. Forgiveness is for YOU. In fact, the definition of forgiveness is to stop feeling anger or blame at someone who has done something wrong.

Most of the time if a relationship didn’t work out, it simply wasn’t a good fit. If we’re coming from a place of full self-esteem, we would be able to see that and move on. But often in a relationship we feel a “spark” with someone for reasons that we cannot possibly understand. They come from deep seated beliefs as a child, and that person triggered a hurt or pain inside of you.

Don’t allow this hurt and anger to become your story while they’re out there moving on. By forgiving, you break the chains that are binding you and allow yourself to live a better life with the person you are meant to be with. Write a letter of forgiveness, say a prayer, or set the intention to forgive.


4. Be honest with yourself.

Be honest with yourself if you’re truly wanting to get over a broken heart or if you’re harboring secret hopes that the two of you will get back together. While this is not wrong in any way (many of us feel it!), if the relationship is over, it will definitely impede your progress of moving on.

It helps when you can remember not to see the relationship through rose colored glasses. It’s so tempting to look back on a relationship and only see it for the potential you believe it had. We tend to remember the part where we were falling in love, when they were at their best selves, when we were at our best self, when we had ridiculous sex or that surprise dinner that was everything.

But there is a reason why you broke up. Be honest with yourself and the relationship for what it was, not just what you remember it as being.

5. Take back your personal power.

Get back to your own personal power as soon as you can. You may not be able to control what your ex does, but you can control your own thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

You can choose to see this relationship for the gift that it was. It was not just there to cause pain. It was there to help you evolve through this journey of life, learn to love, and learn to let go.

Life is made up of a collection of moments, people, and relationships that are not ours to keep. The pain we encounter comes from the illusion that some moments can be held onto. Clinging to people and experiences that never belonged to us in the first place is what causes us to miss the beauty of our life in this moment. Love and let and let the single most important thing we are meant to learn in this life.

6. Live an outstanding life.

Get back to your center. Right now get out a piece of paper and write down 10 nurturing things you can do to help you get back to your strong grounded self. Call a friend, set up a coaching session, take a yoga class, buy flowers for yourself, take a bath, go for a long walk while listening to your favorite playlist, clean out your emails, declutter your closet and donate what you no longer need, go to the bookstore and buy Getting the Love You Want, He’s Just Not That Into You, The Breakup Bible to start empowering yourself.

Don’t allow this breakup to continue hurting you by hardening your heart and closing off to new love. Get out there. Meet with friends. Live. Laugh. Love. Be happy.

The secret to getting over a breakup lies within you. If you find yourself continuing down the same path with the same type of guys, then commit to uncovering and healing your patterns.

Keep faith that you will find amazing soul level love. You deserve it.

Saturday, 10 March 2018

How To Love Yourself Now in 12 Easy Ways

 ok i get this alot "love yourself, How can i love myself" then i see some posts on FB, Instagram and so on with hash tags self love and im like is that the way to love yourself?

Trust i did some online research... i found some" how to love yourself tips"....
but i chose to share this by Louise Hay


Are you wondering how to love yourself? I have found that there is only one thing that heals every problem, and that is: truly loving yourself. When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better. They feel better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin.

Loving yourself is a wonderful adventure; it’s like learning to fly. Imagine if we all had the power to fly at will? How exciting it would be! Let’s begin to love ourselves now.

Here are 12 Commandments to help you learn how to love yourself:

1. Stop All Criticism

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

2. Forgive Yourself

Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

3. Don’t Scare Yourself

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

4. Be Gentle and Kind and Patient

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

5. Be Kind to Your Mind

Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

6. Praise Yourself
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

7. Support Yourself

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

8. Be Loving to Your Negatives

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

9. Take Care of Your Body

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

10. Do Mirror Work

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, I love you, I really love you!

11. Love Yourself . . . Do It Now
Don't wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.

12. Have Fun

Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!

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Monday, 5 March 2018

Fiorentina captain Davide Astori dies of 'sudden illness' at 31, team says.

Italy's top football league postponed its Sunday games to mourn the loss of Fiorentina captain and Italy international Davide Astori, whose team said he died of sudden illness at the age of 31.
"Fiorentina is deeply shocked, and has to communicate that its captain Davide Astori has passed away," the Florence team said in a tweet. "Because of the terrible and delicate situation, and most of all for the respect due to his family, we make an appeal to everybody's sensitiveness."
Additional details were not immediately available. ANSA, the Italian news wire, reported Astori died of "cardiocirculatory arrest" while staying with his Fiorentina teammates at the Best Western Hotel Là di Moret in Udine. Fiorentina was slated to play Udinese on Sunday, one of seven Serie A fixtures postponed for the week.

"Shocked by the tragic news, all the Serie A League family gives the closest support to the family of Davide Astori," the league said in a tweet.
Astori leaves behind longtime girlfriend, model Francesca Fioretti, and their 2-year-old daughter, Vittoria, according to Italian media reports.
A lanky fullback with strong aerial ability, the Fiorentina captain and central defender presided over eight clean sheets, or shutouts, for Fiorentina this season. His last goal came in a 5-0 blowout over Hellas Verona in September.
Born in San Giovanni Bianco, about a 90-minute drive northeast of Milan, Astori was capped four times by the Italy Under-18 squad before he began his senior career with AC Milan in 2006. He never took the field for the Italian powerhouse, instead being loaned out to two lower-division teams.
He joined Cagliari in 2008 and spent most of his career there, appearing in 174 games and scoring three times, before going on loan to Roma in 2014 and then to Fiorentina in 2015.
He joined the latter on a permanent basis in 2016 and made 57 appearances for the Florence squad, scoring three times.

Astori also earned 14 caps, or international match appearances, for the Italian national team. He was first named to the Azzurri for a 2010 friendly match against Ivory Coast but remained on the bench for the game. He got on the field in March 2011 for a friendly against Ukraine, which Italy won 2-0.
His lone goal for the Azzurri came in a 2013 Confederations Cup third-place match against Uruguay. Alessandro Diamanti swung a setpiece over goalkeeper Fernando Muslera's head. It clanked off the post, hit Muslera in the back and trickled toward the opposite post before Astori smashed it home from point-blank range. Italy would go on to win the match on penalty kicks.
"He was a fantastic guy," said Chelsea manager Antonio Conte, who formerly coached Astori on the Italian team, in an interview with Sky Sports before his team's match against Manchester City. "He was a great player, but especially a fantastic guy."